People tend to spend their teenage years (and sadly much of their twenties) doing indecent things to others. People learn the limits of what’s socially acceptable through trial and error, and they hide their mistakes behind the shield of “being young” for many years. Eventually, the consequences of being rude or outright cruel finally weigh enough to make people feel guilty, and then they grow up. This tipping point comes at a different time for everyone (and never for some). I was fortunate to have family and friends who told me early in this stage of my life that I was being a real dick when I was being indecent, which I felt guilty about because I liked these people and did not want to disappoint them, and so I grew up quickly. What most of us need to stop sucking is someone asking us to stop sucking. So if your friends are being shitty, tell them so. If they are decent at their core—beneath their cloud of hormones and confused thoughts—your words could inspire them to grow up, and they’ll be very grateful for your honesty some day. — Kavalier Calm
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