Posts tagged "advice"

Can you describe your first kiss in a single sentence?

Parameters: One sentence max, though you may semicolon your heart out. And be honest with the details; I can’t be the only person who had a clumsy/awkward first kiss.

Expected response time: By Monday morning.


How would you describe a cruel lover?

The other night I was tapping my finger and started singing:

Well, I could never love a woman as cruel as you. ( X 2 )
You’re mean to my mother, and you’re worse with my friends.
I could never love a woman as cruel as you.

Well, you say such awful things to wilt my pride.
You say such awful things to make me feel dead inside.
I could never love a woman as cruel as you. ( X 2 )

Parameters: How would you describe a cruel lover? Give me a line or two. The lyric can be simple—in fact, should be. This recording will be very bluesy/jazzy. I may not even have my guitar.

Expected response time: Sunday night.


Any requests?

Looking for songs ideas. Tell me a story, have a conversation with me, share a link to an image, say one word—anything could be the spark I need. Maybe you could tell me about your first love? Maybe a gamer could tell me about what game they are playing or what game they are excited about playing soon? Help me out listeners?


I’ve had a number of how questions in my inbox about songwriting lately, so I’ve decided to blog more about #the process and not just post the product. I really want to build a community of listeners and contributors—truly crowdsource inspiration—and maybe blogging more frequently, about the small details of the craft, will encourage a dialogue and give me more fuel.
Someone asked me how I write my lyrics, so I took a picture of the notebook I’ve been spilling ink on lately. I always write by hand first, and as you can see by the image, it’s chaotic and sloppy. This page began as a song for Princess Zelda, and then my mind took a sharp turn to Princess Peach. Why? Well, when researching Zelda, I read that famous quote in brackets—about storm clouds over Hyrule—and I was thinking about how Zelda wants to protect her people from the coming storm, as if under an umbrella. I fell in love with this concept—and with the opportunity to subtly parody Rihanna—but realized Zelda doesn’t really carry an umbrella. But Princess Peach does. This is still a work in process, but later this week, I plan to post a song about how Peach wants to return the favor to Mario—for all those times he’s saved her—by giving him shelter under her parasol. Of course, this is my plan right now; maybe my brain will take another sharp turn. You can also see that I have a lot of single words. When doing my research I write down a lot of images/references that I want to include. In the second stage, I will turn these single words into whole (potentially rhyming) phrases. Maybe I’ll take a picture of that, too.
Now my questioner was probably asking about how I write less literally. I’ll say that there’s a certain artistic, passionate side to it that can’t be explained. I don’t know why some days I have to write. I don’t know why some nights I wake up with an idea and can’t go back to sleep until I write it down. That’s magic to me, still, and I am happy with it remaining so. If you are an artist and want to cast spells like that, too, all I can do is encourage bravery and effort. You have to be brave that your work is worthy of sharing and know that every time you share, you will learn something, and be a better sharer the next time. Effort is about actually doing it. I’ve known too many writers (myself included) that spend more time talking about writing than actually writing. Effort means you have to do it every day. I mean every day. The only way to create gems is by sorting them from the rough. I write so much garbage, but I just steamroll through it, believing that the next line could be gold. It’s a probability thing. You can’t know if the next line you write or the 3000th will be truly good, so you just have to keep writing; the more you write, the more you increase your probability of winning. I give myself short, very serious deadlines to ensure my probability stays high. Of course, I share some of my weaker work on this blog; plenty of times I’ve swung, feeling like a hit a home run with you all, only to strike out. There’s only one way to respond to that, though: keep writing. And I will keep writing because I’ve hit enough homers to be thirsty for more. I don’t really want to let the Tumblrverse down with laziness or self-doubt.
So, friends, do you have any other questions about the process?

I’ve had a number of how questions in my inbox about songwriting lately, so I’ve decided to blog more about #the process and not just post the product. I really want to build a community of listeners and contributors—truly crowdsource inspiration—and maybe blogging more frequently, about the small details of the craft, will encourage a dialogue and give me more fuel.

Someone asked me how I write my lyrics, so I took a picture of the notebook I’ve been spilling ink on lately. I always write by hand first, and as you can see by the image, it’s chaotic and sloppy. This page began as a song for Princess Zelda, and then my mind took a sharp turn to Princess Peach. Why? Well, when researching Zelda, I read that famous quote in brackets—about storm clouds over Hyrule—and I was thinking about how Zelda wants to protect her people from the coming storm, as if under an umbrella. I fell in love with this concept—and with the opportunity to subtly parody Rihanna—but realized Zelda doesn’t really carry an umbrella. But Princess Peach does. This is still a work in process, but later this week, I plan to post a song about how Peach wants to return the favor to Mario—for all those times he’s saved her—by giving him shelter under her parasol. Of course, this is my plan right now; maybe my brain will take another sharp turn. You can also see that I have a lot of single words. When doing my research I write down a lot of images/references that I want to include. In the second stage, I will turn these single words into whole (potentially rhyming) phrases. Maybe I’ll take a picture of that, too.

Now my questioner was probably asking about how I write less literally. I’ll say that there’s a certain artistic, passionate side to it that can’t be explained. I don’t know why some days I have to write. I don’t know why some nights I wake up with an idea and can’t go back to sleep until I write it down. That’s magic to me, still, and I am happy with it remaining so. If you are an artist and want to cast spells like that, too, all I can do is encourage bravery and effort. You have to be brave that your work is worthy of sharing and know that every time you share, you will learn something, and be a better sharer the next time. Effort is about actually doing it. I’ve known too many writers (myself included) that spend more time talking about writing than actually writing. Effort means you have to do it every day. I mean every day. The only way to create gems is by sorting them from the rough. I write so much garbage, but I just steamroll through it, believing that the next line could be gold. It’s a probability thing. You can’t know if the next line you write or the 3000th will be truly good, so you just have to keep writing; the more you write, the more you increase your probability of winning. I give myself short, very serious deadlines to ensure my probability stays high. Of course, I share some of my weaker work on this blog; plenty of times I’ve swung, feeling like a hit a home run with you all, only to strike out. There’s only one way to respond to that, though: keep writing. And I will keep writing because I’ve hit enough homers to be thirsty for more. I don’t really want to let the Tumblrverse down with laziness or self-doubt.

So, friends, do you have any other questions about the process?


I was scrolling through Tumblr last week and came across a picture of a very cute girl on her blog little-looks. On this blog, and her main blog littlefinch, she shares her unique sense of style, which I definitely dig. I messaged her outright, asked her if I could write her a song. She didn’t make a specific request, but said:

The only thing I could say is maybe something not cliché or overdone.

With this simple statement, she accidentally spoke to one of my deepest fears. To date, I would say CI is unique. I find it fairly easy to let my strange inner-voice out (because he’s loud and hungry). And I have no real plan for CI; I sort of just go with the musical flow, and that’s exciting. But sometimes not being cliché means making some hard choices. Like my avoidance of covers. Or the fact that I’ve listened to much less music since I started CI a few months ago because I’m afraid of accidentally copying/being changed/losing my internal rhythm. Maybe this is silly? I don’t know. Tonight’s song, my song for Ms. Little-Blogs, is not about the challenge of being artistically unique, though. It’s about the challenge of being romantically unique. I think it is difficult enough for a guy to meet all the overblown expectations generated by Hollywood and pulp-fiction. But even if a guy can pull it off, many girls will find it boring because they will (correctly) feel that it’s not unique. Guessing if a girl wants cliché love or unique love is a very special frustration (especially because the girl doesn’t always know herself), and this frustration is at the heart of this song. I will say that in general, I think the most fertile soil for love is a bed of earth void of expectations…just like the most fertile soil for my songwriting project is a blog with no real direction. Enjoy everyone. If interested, free downloads of this track are here. — K.C.

     I’m Not The First Boy To Love A Girl

I write you poems every day,
and I bring you flowers in a vase.
But you say I’m such a bore;
you want a love you ain’t ever seen before.

I’m not the first boy to love a girl;
there’s only so much I can do.
I’m not the first boy to love a girl;
I’m just the first one to love you.

I make you dinner and buy us tickets to a show,
and I’m interested in everything you know.
But every time I dare smile, you yawn;
you want a love you ain’t heard in any song.
CHORUS

Who are you to demand something new?
There’s no need to reinvent the wheel.
There’s a model for good loving;
you just need to try and feel.
CHORUS

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Speed writing: Need an idea, NOW!

So, I have somewhere to be in about an hour, but I promised myself I’d write a song today. Followers, give me an idea—help me crowdsource. Answer this post with a single word, a small story, a picture, or whatever, and I’ll write a response to one. I’ve been wanting to do a speed writing challenge for awhile now. Wonder what I can write, record, and post in one hour.

Ideas? Don’t be shy!


What has she done?

Hi, friends. Seeking your input on my newest song. Gemma at gemz16 sent me these lovely words and challenged me to use them in a song:

She sits alone, rain pours around her,
her broken face is quite a picture.
Holding back tears cause of what she’s done,
she had no control, and she starts to run.

I asked why she’s crying, and Gemma admitted the plot wasn’t clear to her when she penned these words. So, I thought I’d ask all of you: what has this girl done? Be creative; make up her crime! I may not discuss her mistake explicitly in the song lyrics, but I need to have a mistake in mind while I’m writing—to feel for for this girl.


This is a concept drawing for album art. I’ve decided to release a digital album of some of the love songs I’ve written for CI entitled, simply, #love. Now you can see why I make music instead of draw. It makes sense for a compilation of these blog-inspired tracks to play off the pound symbol, the tag symbol, and a phone offers an existing # symbol to center the album art around. I actually imagine the phone (which could be a sketch OR a photograph) on a small table. Perhaps a dead rose or an ashtray with old or still burning cigarettes sits next to the phone? The cord will be visibly disconnected. The # and the word love will stand out somehow (different color?), and my name and the project’s name needs to be present, as well (though I don’t care where). The other caveat is bandcamp requires album art images to be exactly 350 x 350 pixels, so it needs to be designed as a square at that size.
Any artists want to give it a shot? This is just a fun opportunity to collaborate. I’ll credit you extensively and write a song just for you—about anything you want. And, if for some reason this project ever made a penny (ha!), I’d be sure to give you a fraction of said penny. Thanks in advance for considering. Just answer here or message me. — Kavalier Calm

This is a concept drawing for album art. I’ve decided to release a digital album of some of the love songs I’ve written for CI entitled, simply, #love. Now you can see why I make music instead of draw. It makes sense for a compilation of these blog-inspired tracks to play off the pound symbol, the tag symbol, and a phone offers an existing # symbol to center the album art around. I actually imagine the phone (which could be a sketch OR a photograph) on a small table. Perhaps a dead rose or an ashtray with old or still burning cigarettes sits next to the phone? The cord will be visibly disconnected. The # and the word love will stand out somehow (different color?), and my name and the project’s name needs to be present, as well (though I don’t care where). The other caveat is bandcamp requires album art images to be exactly 350 x 350 pixels, so it needs to be designed as a square at that size.

Any artists want to give it a shot? This is just a fun opportunity to collaborate. I’ll credit you extensively and write a song just for you—about anything you want. And, if for some reason this project ever made a penny (ha!), I’d be sure to give you a fraction of said penny. Thanks in advance for considering. Just answer here or message me. — Kavalier Calm


Add to my lyrics?

Hi, friends. I’m working on a song on request, and I wondered if any of you could give me some words/images/ideas for the lyrics? All you need to know is the song is about a girl whose head is always in the clouds—a girl who unfortunately lost her father when she was young and she’s been trying to find her way in the world ever since. What was the first thing you thought of when you read that sentence? Share it. Don’t worry if it seems unfitting or odd to the topic; it’s my job to make all your ideas gel together. Let’s go, folks! Just a couple hours to write and record before I have to go to bed :( Oh! And I’ll devote the song to whomever’s contributions I use. Thanks in advance for playing along. — Kavalier Calm


I just asked the Tumblrverse for some input on the lyrics; a-green-unicorn suggested “lonely girl in the sky-just trying to find to find an alibi”, and in-laymans-terms said “my initial thought was ‘be free’ she needs to release herself from the pain of her lost father”. I took this input and the request and came up with this song, “Alibi”. I didn’t mention the loss of the father specifically, but it’s there, stopping the girl from loving me; the girl avoids her pain (and all feelings) by staying up in the clouds—in a safe place in her head. I just want to prove to her that right here and right now—with me—is a good time to be alive, despite her painful past. Considering that I wrote and recorded this in less than two hours, I’m very pleased with how it turned out. This song is devoted to lifeandtimesoftheresafrances for the initial request, and to a-green-unicorn and in-laymans-terms for contributing to my lyrics. Thank you, bloggers! Enjoy, everyone! — Kavalier Calm

     Alibi

I know I can’t understand your pain;
but you can’t understand the joy I can bring.
Lonely girl up in the sky;
I can be your alibi.
Let me prove to you: you ain’t in the wrong place or wrong time.

I know you were given a raw deal
even if I can’t know how you feel.
Your head’s all in the clouds,
and the rain’s coming down.
Lonely girl, tears falling from the sky,
I can be your alibi.
Let me prove to you: you ain’t in the wrong place or wrong time.

Your heart’s in a prison;
let me set it free.
(I can be your alibi.)

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Any lovers out there have some input?

I’m working on a new love song called “Take My Hand”. The verses are going to be centered on metaphors about being in tough situations with the person I love, and each verse will resolve with the best possible response in such situations: simply asking my lover to take my hand. Can any of you think of some good metaphorical “tough situations” I can work with lyrically? They don’t have to plausible…just concrete and full of imagery. I’m sure some of you have lived through tough spots with a partner or can imagine what that’d be like. Just respond to this post with your musings. Below is an example of one verse I’ve worked out already and the chorus. Thanks for contributing, friends. — Kavalier Calm

We’re lost at sea
in a two man boat.
I can see the lighthouse
from where we float;
but a fog is rolling in.

Well, my love,
all I can say is
take my hand.


Which #gaming character would you like to hear a song about?

I need ideas for a good topic for my next #gaming-themed song. I am putting together an album of character-centric songs, so I’d like to hear your suggestions for good protagonists/antagonists to write about. A favorite Pokemon? A favorite FF character? Anything. I’d write about a video game in general, too. I’ll take any good ideas you’ve got. You can check out some of my more popular songs to get a sense of my style. Thanks in advance for contributing! — Kavalier Calm